😭Dad NaaziMorad
#IqbalMoradTribute
🌌 I was in the realm between death and resurrection, searching. “Dad… Dad… are you really gone?” My heart raced. I looked up at the clouds, desperate. “Allah, show me. In a dream, in a sign, anyway. Where is my father? How is he?” The panic spread like lightning through my body. I touched the earth, tears streaming down my face. I closed my eyes and allowed my soul to travel, to his grave. I couldn’t speak. The pain was too loud. I held the image of where his body lay and whispered, “I know you’re not there, Dad.”
I prayed: “Ya Allah, grant him the most beautiful garden, with waterfalls, in the company of my late mother and the righteous believers.” Then I opened my eyes.
I was still staring at the sand. And I realized: today, I am above you. Tomorrow, I will be below you. How short this life is. Today we speak to someone. Tomorrow, we stand over their grave.
🧠 The Psychological Impact of Sudden Death: Why It Hits Harder
It’s been one year and four months since my father died, suddenly, without warning. That kind of death is different. It doesn’t give you time to prepare, to say goodbye, to brace your heart.
Sudden death often leads to:
- Complicated grief: a prolonged, intense mourning that disrupts daily life.
- Trauma responses: panic attacks, flashbacks, and emotional numbness.
- Delayed processing: the mind struggles to accept what the heart already knows.
Unlike my mother, who fought her illness in and out of hospitals, my father’s death was a rupture. One moment he was here. The next, gone. No warning. No closure.
- Delayed processing: the mind struggles to accept what the heart already knows.
🌿 Grief and Trauma Recovery: Healing Through Ritual and Reflection
Grief is not linear. It’s a spiral. And healing requires both psychological tools and spiritual rituals:
- Grounding through nature: Touching the earth, as I did, calms the nervous system and anchors the soul.
- Prayer and visualization: Imagining my father in paradise is a form of guided imagery used in trauma therapy.
- Writing as soulwork: This blog itself is narrative therapy—turning pain into poetry, chaos into coherence.
Islamic Perspective on Loss: Barzakh as Mercy
In Islam, Barzakh is not just a waiting room—it’s a mercy. A place where souls rest, where prayers reach, where love continues. My longing for my father is not madness. It’s fitrah—the soul’s natural yearning for reunion and divine mercy.
✨ Final Reflection: Above Today, Below Tomorrow
Sudden death teaches us that life is fragile. That love must be spoken. That healing is sacred. We live knowing that one day, we too will be a statistic of death. But until then, we swing between worlds—grieving, praying, remembering.
If you’ve lost someone suddenly, know this: your pain is valid. Your longing is holy. And your healing is possible.
