✨ A Mirror or a Message?
So often in therapy, we hear: “They hurt me.” But what if we reframed the question? What if the power to hurt doesn’t solely belong to the other, but rests quietly, uncomfortably, with us?
Pain doesn’t arrive at our doorstep without a key. Words that cut, silences that sting, criticisms that echo they all find purchase in places within us that are already wounded, tender, unresolved. When someone “hurts us,” we are often reacting not only to what was said or done but to the unresolved fragments of ourselves that still need witnessing.
No one can hurt us, unless the ground within is already cracked.
✨Now, this isn’t to blame ourselves for our suffering. It’s an invitation to deeper ownership. If we’re strong, driven, dynamic, clear in our boundaries and anchored in our values—then someone else’s words cannot define us. They might graze us, challenge us, momentarily disrupt us—but they do not damage us.🌿
When you feel hurt, ask:
🌿What inside of me is still seeking healing?
🌿What truth—however sharp or distorted—did their words reflect back to me?
🌿Am I reacting to the present moment, or an old echo within me?
We spend so much time pointing outward, we forget the mirror is what shows us the truth.
Healing isn’t about becoming immune to pain. It’s about becoming curious about it. Choosing to turn inward instead of outward. Owning what belongs to us. And gently, consistently, tending to the parts of us that still long to be seen, soothed, and strong. So the next time someone says, “I didn’t mean to hurt you” or “You’re too sensitive,” pause. Don’t rush to defend or deflect. Ask yourself instead: What nerve was touched—and what truth am I now ready to reclaim?
💫Because healing isn’t passive. It’s a practice.
With love by Naazi Morad
